For those people who have difficulties with anger management – in Bournemouth, Dorset or elsewhere – the main problem is often the seemingly instantaneous and uncontrollable nature of their outbursts.
They know it’s undesirable to get angry before the outburst, and may regret it afterwards, but during the outburst it’s as if they’re on autopilot and have no control over what is happening.
But although it may seem this way, the anger process starts long before the outburst, and therefore there is a way to control and manage this anger (once you understand the process and what you can do to stop it). The process starts with underlying stress and physical tension – the greater the duration and intensity of this underlying stress, the more prone to outbursts we become.
Anger is rarely the core emotion. Unless we are in immediate physical danger, anger is usually a secondary emotion. What often lies beneath anger are feelings of fear or sadness.
For many people with an anger management problem, anger is like a towel they use to cover themselves when they feel emotionally naked.
Low frustration tolerance is also a major contributor to anger management issues. Frustrations are a normal part of everyday life for all of us. Yet some people have such a build up of underlying stress, that they are seemingly unable to tolerate even mild frustrations.
Anger management therapy
With help, angry outbursts can be overcome and a normal level of resistance to life’s inconveniences can be restored.
What we think at the time of frustration is critical in determining whether we become angry or calm. We can help you understand what ‘hot thoughts’ are, and how to replace them with better and more realistic alternatives. These help fix whatever may be wrong rather than make matters worse.
For help and treatment to manage your anger, whether you live in the Bournemouth, Dorset area, or elsewhere, simply arrange a free assessment consulation. Contact Dolphin Hypnotherapy today or book online using voucher code INITIALAC. (Please note that in the event of non-attendance or cancellation with less than 48 hours notice, our standard consultation fee will be charged)
This page was written by Mr T.Roberts, Consultant Psychotherapist. Learn more.